Lila DeVault Betts
April 29, 1913 ~ March 29, 2012
Resided in:
Asheville, NC
Candler - Lila DeVault Betts, of Asheville, died at Givens Estates on March 29, 2012, one month before her 99th birthday.
She was born Lila Gordon King on April 29, 1913, in Forest City, NC, to Grover Cleveland and Mary McBrayer King, the oldest of their four children. She was valedictorian of her Cool Springs High School Class of 1929. She attended Coker College in Hartsville, South Carolina, for two years, serving as President of her sophomore class, but had to leave college due to the Depression.
She and her family moved to Asheville in the early thirties, where she became executive secretary to L. B. Jackson, working on the top floor of the Jackson Building in downtown Asheville. At the age of 26, she married Cleveland Franklin Pinnix Jr. of Greensboro, North Carolina. When World War II began, Cleve enlisted and was commissioned a first lieutenant in the U. S. Army. The young couple traveled throughout the country, and when Cleve was sent to France, Lila returned to Asheville for the birth of their son Cleve III in March of 1944. "Big Cleve" was killed in France July 12, 1944, never having seen his son.
Lila returned to her job with Mr. Jackson, during which time she produced a weekly publication of news of local servicemen.
She and her son continued to live at her parents' home on Kimberly Avenue until she married Robert V. DeVault , a chemist at American Enka, in 1950. Their daughter Mary was born in 1952.
Lila became a widow once again when Bob died suddenly in 1969. She continued to live in North Asheville, remaining busy with church and social activities. In 1982, after a one-week courtship, she became engaged to Dr. Reeve H. Betts of Asheville, a retired surgeon and medical missionary. They were married two months later, and soon after moved to Givens Estates. In 2000, she became a widow for the third time when Dr. Betts died from Parkinson's Disease.
Lila remained at Givens Estates until her death, gradually declining through a ten-year battle with dementia.
She was an active and long-standing member of Central United Methodist Church, a member of PEO, and the founder of the Opsimathy Book Club at Givens Estates.
She is survived by her son and daughter-in-law, Cleve and Martha Pinnix of Olympia, Washington; her daughter and son-in-law, Mary and Tom Donnelly of Asheville; and a granddaughter, Julia McBrayer Pinnix of King Salmon, Alaska.
A celebration of her life is being planned for 2:00 p.m. Sunday, April 29, 2012 (which would have been her 99th birthday), at the Chapel at Givens Estates.
In lieu of flowers, memorials are requested to be made to MemoryCare, 100 Far Horizons Lane, Asheville, NC, 28803.
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Lila was my mother’s best friend from childhood. I have never known a more caring and gracious person. May she rest in peace and in joy. Mary and Cleve, you are in my prayers. Ellen Fluharty Howe
Mary and family, I am saddened to hear about the loss of your mother. I know you have taken care of her for many years now. She is finally at rest. Please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers during this time of sorrow.
May her soul and the souls of all the faithful departed, through the mercy of God, rest in peace. God bless Lila Gordon, a true original.
My sister Ellen said it best – caring and gracious. I don’t know another person that those words describe better than Lila. My mother was very lucky to claim her as her friend. Peace to her as well as to Cleve and to Mary who traveled that hard road with her those last several years.
Randy
Dear Mary, Tom and Family,
I was sad to hear that Lila has passed from our world in body but I know not in spirit. What wonderful memories I have of her being a second mother to me through the years of our families’ visits and hikes together. As a child I appreciated her humor, her abundant and delicious cooking and her steadfast patience with Mary and me. As an adult I have continued to value her friendship, kindnesses and wit. In fact, she just might have been the funniest person I’ve ever known! Lila was truly an angel on earth and I can feel her peace and hear her chuckle as she looks down on us…
Bruce also sends his thoughts and regards.
Much Love, Helen (Pixie too)
Mary, my heart goes out to you.(and your family) I know how hard it is to lose your mom.I pray God gives you love, strength, and many good memories.
Dear Mary, Tom, and Family,
I am saddened to hear of Lila passing. She was a very special lady, and I always enjoyed seeing her. In this difficult time, please know that your family are in my thoughts and prayers. May God bless you and ease your spirit in the knowledge that she is whole and healed again, and rejoicing in Heaven. How fortunate you have been, Mary, to have been cared for by a loving mother; and how fortunate Lila has been to have been cared for by a loving daughter. God bless you.
Dear Cleve, Marty and Mary,
I have so many fond memories of Aunt Lila and have thought of her often through the years. She was a gracious, loving southern lady in every sense of the word and my thoughts and prayers are with you in your loss. Frances
I’m sending you love always, Mary, and thanks for who you are. I hope reading these guest bk entries is a comfort as people recall what a loving, patient and fun/funny person your Mom was. Quite a trooper! ‘Getting’ and outliving 3 husbands!
Love
Sharron
I worked with Faye at NCDC she was such wonderful person, always had a smile and a kind word for you.
I am so sorry for the lose of Lila, even though I have not seen her in years she has always been close to my heart, she was a great lady, My Condolences to Mary for the lose of her Mother
Barbara
Dear Betts family,
I am sorry for your loss. As the days and weeks go by, may you draw closer to God in prayer and allow Him to sustain you.-
Psalm 55:22
When my Dad married Lila a year after my Mom died, Lila became my stepmother for what turned out to be 30 years. She brought great joy to my Dad and all the family. Lila became a very special friend and confidant and I loved being around her. I will miss her loving spirit but treasure all our wonderful memories. Love you! Anne
I carry fond memories of Lila and of the smile that always graced her face. I’m most apporeciative of the wonderful care she took of Dad during his unsuccessful struggle with Parkinson’s. I look forward to seeing her again in Heaven.
My Mom (Sally Holmes) was a member of Lila’s book club at Givens. She always spoke very highly of Lila and the book club. I have some special memories of Lila especially her smile. My thoughts and prayers are with your family.